I’ve been training in sacred sexuality, conscious kink, facilitation of groups, hosting play events and more since over 5 years now.
My wish is to create and hold spaces in which people can experience their bodies, their desires, their boundaries in ways they can’t somewhere else. I want people to touch on the things they learned are shameful, find language to truly express themselves and of course, to have fun! How did I get here?

For my 21st birthday my polish-american friend Alex gifted me a book. It was called “Decoding your Kink – Guide to Explore Share and Enjoy Your Wildest Sexual Desires”. She thought, I might like it. And – I did!
I knew almost nothing about BDSM at the time. I only knew Tantra so far. From what I had learned I thought these are opposites. As I was reading this book, I realized Tantra and Kink actually go very well together. I was recommended to go to Seani Love’s workshop “Getting Conscious with Kink”. And I fucking loved it! A few days after the workshop I sent Seani a message, thanking him for my experience! I mentioned the book, I got for my birthday. It felt like this workshop was the embodiment of the book.

He replied – “The author of the book is planing a workshop tour through Europe. He will come to Berlin and is looking for an event organiser. Can this be you?”

From a book that was lying on my nightstand for a few weeks – came a career as an event producer, soon to be a professional kinkster, an activist in the sex-positive movement and more.

And I know, it wasn’t just the book! (But it makes for such a good story.) 

In depth re-learning of sensation.

How does my skin feel?
How does my body feel?
How do I like it to be touched?
And how do I like to touch others?
How does it feel to say no and being heard? Or even getting a ‘thank you’ as a response.
It sounds so simple, and yet so difficult it can be to really implement these things.

My erotic being, my inner slut wanted to come out since I am a teenager, but didn’t quite know how. Finding language for my body, my wishes and my boundaries was necessary to really experience want I wanted. I started a blog after my first tantra retreat. I made the world my sharing circle. I wished to connect, to share, to laugh and cry with other people. I was deeply touched by the experience of self-love and acceptance that I had experienced with myself and witnessed in others. Freeing myself (or at least starting to) from the bullshit believes, that I am not good enough, not pretty enough, not skinny enough, not this or that enough – or too much, too loud, too confident, too sexual…This was just a starting point for the on-going journey through Tantra, Kink, Polyamory, NVC, Sex-positivity and more. I try to bring it all together in my work. In the events I organize, the spaces I hold, the public posts I write.

We all have certain narratives we believe in. For example, sex is something to be experienced in a committed relationship, sex and love are connected. Some narratives are more related to one sex, e.g. men are more sexual than women, women have a harder time seperating love and sex; you name it. While many of these narratives are proved to be not correct, they influence how we think, feel, behave, and judge.

My aim is that you find a place of play and education for sexuality, love and relating that suits you! 

In a society that capitalizes on insecurity, touch and love scarcity, being an empowered loving being is quite a rebellious act. Reading until here, might mean you are a little love bad-ass, too! I hope I can be of support for your journey. 

‘ COS I LOVE